Elegy for Mom: A Memoir of Family Caregiving, Alzheimer's, and Devotion
by Vicki Kaufmann
Heading into uncharted territory can be both frightening and exhilarating. Did we ask all the “right” questions? Did we do enough research to find the best care for our parents’ quality of life? What is it like to suffer memory loss, to not know where you are, or who you are? My experience as a caregiver is unique to me. In writing this I want to provide caregivers not only some new information, but a different slant on their role. Caregiving gave me the opportunity to be more than I thought I could be. In my opinion, being a caregiver of a family member is a spiritual calling. It can also be a pathway to new levels of grace, courage, creativity, and love. I was “blessed” to have had such loving parents. I am “blessed” to have a loving husband and close family who supported me.
Middle River Press, November 2015
“Since caregivers of Alzheimer’s patients are exposed to a high degree of stress, this book is a valuable resource by virtue of the author having traveled that road, and generously imparts that experience. This book gives the caregiver a feeling of empowerment and a feeling of mastery. This is vital to an understanding that the situation can be managed, and how it can be done. Elegy for Mom will provide comfort and a measure of security for those who now find themselves on what could be a long and lonely journey.”
Merle J. Stern
Retired University Professor and Family Therapist
“A memoir, an honoring of parents and family, PLUS wonderful everyday practical information for those dealing with dementia or Alzheimer’s in a loved one…this book is all of these and MORE! It is also a journey, a gentle spiritual journey that Kaufmann takes you on as she supports her parents. It is a ‘must read’ for anyone looking for information, help, and support. It is also an ‘excellent read’ for those who love and value family, or who want to know more about these disorders.”
Helen A. Scieszka, Ph.D.
“Elegy for Mom is like a finely crafted quilt, in which we see the threads of family love and devotion intertwined with the beauty of a mother’s artwork, and the sorrow felt by everyone as her Alzheimer’s illness progressed. Like a quilt, beautiful as well as practical, each chapter invites those of us who are caregivers to reflect on our own situations, and provides resources and suggestions for caring for our loved ones, and for coping with ever-complicated lives. This is a generous book – a gift from one author and her family, to many others.”
Priscilla Dunning, CSW, LMFT
Clinical Social Worker, Marriage and Family Therapist
“Elegy for Mom is a compelling, touching, and informative book about caring for a loved one who is suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. Kaufmann shares her own personal journey as a caregiver to her mother and father, and readers will feel as if they know her parents on an intimate level. I cried a lot! I have no doubt that readers will appreciate Kaufmann’s honesty in sharing her parents’ story, as it provides helpful information and support for caregivers.”
Allison, BA, MFA
Professor, Writer, and Editor
“Elegy for Mom is a touching love story that shared not only the love of husband and wife, but also the love and journey of a daughter into the uncharted territory of Alzheimer’s disease. The story and the poems eloquently describe the journey that so many are on when it comes to the care of aging parents. I found the ‘Tips for Caregivers’ to be incredibly valuable as they include practical suggestions that can be easily implemented. The ‘Resource’ section was thorough and complete, and will serve the reader well. By writing her personal story, Ms. Kaufmann found a way to make her personal journey a valuable resource for others.”
Vicki S. Donoso, MS, MBA
People have kept diaries and journals for centuries. The act of journaling is much more than the recording of personal thoughts and feelings. Each reflection helps the writer come to a deeper understanding of themselves through the many subtle experiences that shape their everyday lives. Journaling may also provide an easy, meditative form of self-therapy to help reduce stress and even cope with grief and loss.
My Blessings Journal, is a 5 ½” x 7 ½” coil bound journal. It is divided into twelve sections, each devoted to a different blessing, with mini-reflections to get you started. Vicki designed it to help you, the journal writer, become more aware of the daily blessings that sometimes quietly slip into your life.
The journal retails for $6.00, plus $3.50 for taxes, handling, and shipping charge. For a bulk rate on five or more journals, please contact: Vicki@CaregiverFamilies.com